The pull after coming close

It is not that you do not want to stay.
You are only unused to someone
who is truly willing to remain.

Come close, and you want to run.
Turn away, and you look back.

That is not a test,
and not a game.
You have not yet learned
how to set yourself down in a bond.

So after coming close this time,
stop first.
Ask that urge to withdraw
what it is trying to protect.